My mom reminded me last night that it has been 5 months since my last blog post- WHAT... how did that happen? I can summarize it one simple word; LIFE.
I set a goal for myself to update my blog much more frequently. Selfishly, I know it will be a great tool to look back in the years ahead and accurately recall many of the moments along this journey.
A lot can happen in five months...
Cole has continued to make remarkable progress and is spending his last day at full time ABA Therapy today. He will start at the new MAC School on Tuesday. It will be 1/2 day of ABA therapy and 1/2 ABA-taught academics. We toured the school last night and Cole could not be more excited. It's very rewarding to move on to this next phase.
Pat has a new job! Congrats to him on his promotion to VP of Sales and Marketing. He has worked incredibly hard and I couldn't be prouder of him.
Baseball season flew by (Connor's team won the championship!) and now we are weeks into football. Connor's hair is now bright blonde- a sure sign summer is on the way out!
5 months ago I was nearly 30 pounds heavier. Yes, with the help of Weight Watchers, protein shakes, support from family and friends and countless visits to the YMCA, I've shed close to 40 pounds since January! Woot woot!!! Now my goal is to maintain, which is 10x harder than losing the weight. When you're trying to lose, you have the motivation of seeing the scale go down. Now I need the scale to say where it is. Wish me luck!
We've had a really great summer. We packed A LOT into those 10-12 weeks. Here are the highlights:
JUNE
Cole went to Camp Dodge. It was a camp for Autistic children that was held at a nature center/farm. He loved it and made a lot of new friends. He continued his full-time ABA throughout the summer and particularly enjoyed water days! We also met his best friend, Marc (a friend from MAC), at Como Town for a play date. It went really well and now we meet once a month.
Connor spent a lot of time playing baseball. Pat coached his team this year and they had a lot of fun. He also moved up a level in gymnastics and practiced 3 days a week, all summer long! He and I spent a lot of afternoons at Bunker Beach where we often met up with family and friends. Oh how we love that place!
As a family, we went down to the Noble Family Farm in Austin, MN. It was so much fun! We rode dune buggies, the 4-wheeler, moved the lawn and rode the big tractor. The kids all played in the sprinkler and also spent time swimming at the hotel pool. Cole loved going up and down on the elevators in the hotel! We are fortunate to be going back tomorrow for another memorable stay.
Sadly, on June 28th I lost my Grandma. She was 98 years old. It happened very quickly and although she was ready to go, we weren't ready to let her. I'm so thankful we were all there to say goodbye, hold her hand, give her kisses and be with her as she passed away. She was an incredible woman and the boys miss her terribly. Cole knows that GG is living above the clouds and he wants to go see her. I keep telling him he needs to wait for a really long time before that happens.
JULY
We started out the month with both the Schusted and Cooney extended families heading up for a week at Cabin O Pines (COP). COP is the resort in Orr, MN which is owned by my sister-in-law's family. It's our second time up there and we all love it! It was really nice to have the Schusted's up there as well. We had remarkable weather and spent a lot of quality time at the beach, boating, fishing, playing yard games, going on scooter rides, biking, hiking and enjoying each other's company. Cole was there from Sat - Wed. He was really excited for the 4th of July fireworks on the lake and he loved having all of his cousins there to share in the fun! We can't wait to go back again next year.
Connor's baseball team played in the Tier II tournament. After only winning two games all year, they came together in the end (in that horrid 100 degree heat), to win the championship game! It was really exciting. Although I think the kids loved the water balloon fight and pizza party just as much as winning that last game.
Cole also closed out his baseball season. He played in the Miracle League again this year. It was great to see the progress he made from last summer. He really started hitting the ball hard. He thought it was hilarious to run to the base and purposefully fall as he approached the base. What a goofball! He also loved spending time on the boat and swimming in Coon Lake. He loved to tube behind the boat and tells Pat and I we are "too old" to tube! ;-)
AUGUST
After a week of football camp, Connor headed up north with his cousin Max, to go to their first overnight camp. The boys spent 3 nights/4 days at Trout Lake Camp. It was amazing! They had a great time and can't wait to go back next summer. When I asked him what his favorite thing was about camp, he had one word: EVERYTHING!!!!!
The boys went to Target Field with Grandpa Denny and I. Neighbor friends of ours graciously gave us free seats right behind home plate. Connor and I went to the game right away and Grandpa and Cole showed up an hour later. It was really hot, but we had a lot of fun. Cole loves to ride the elevators. And after being there only one time before, he knew exactly where to go to find every one!
Pat and I had our 20 year High School Reunion in August. It's hard to believe 20 years have flown by. It's nice to have gone to the same high school. We have a ton of mutual friends and had a great catching up with them. It's incredible to reflect on how much our lives have changed since graduation... isn't it interesting where life takes you!
The highlight of the month was hands down my brother, Brendan's wedding. He married his wonderful wife, Brittany on August 27th. Everything about the day was perfect. Cole's in-home therapist and I did a lot to prepare Cole for the "dance party" portion of the wedding. We had him practice wearing his dress clothes and showed him several picture stories about what would happen that night. We knew the wedding would be too much for Cole, but we made plans for a PCA to bring him to the "dance party" and then back to the respite house. Like I said, it went perfectly.
The wedding was amazing. I had the once-in-a-lifetime honor of officiating the ceremony. It was one of the best experiences of my life and I'm so thankful for the opportunity to marry off my younger brother to such an incredible woman. Cole showed up around 8pm. He had just enough time to make an ice cream sundae, take family pictures, say hello to everyone and check out the mansion. After that, it was time to watch the first dance and mother/father dances. Cole waited so patiently. Finally it was time to party. He walked right up to his cousin Elle, took her arm and brought her to the dance floor. The kids all had a ton of fun doing breakdance moves, handstands and even some gymnastics. Cole danced with Brittany. He held her hands as they danced but kept his eyes closed- not sure what that was about but it was super cute! When another slow song came on, Cole snuggled up to me and we shared a slow dance. It was the BEST. Shortly after that, Cole said he was ready to go. Pat walked he and his PCA out to the car, where we had a few presents for Cole. He did such a great job that we had to reward him!!
The entire wedding weekend was so memorable and fun. Brendan married a truly amazing woman and she has a wonderful family. I couldn't be happier for the two of them!
SCHOOL
Cole is about to start SCHOOL!!!! He hasn't officially been in school for almost 3 years. He has been in full-time ABA therapy since January 2009. It is bittersweet for him to move on from MAC and full time ABA, but he is ready!!!! We are incredibly thankful to all of the amazing therapists as MAC, who worked so hard with Cole. They have done things with Cole I didn't know would be possible. In his last ITP (therapy plan), he had 17 PAGES off mastered objectives. That is incredible!!!! We will especially miss his lead therapist, Jen, who has worked with Cole from day 1. She has spent one day a week in our home for years and is responsible for teaching us behavior and discipline techniques which literally saved our family. When Cole started at MAC, Cole's aggression was so severe that Pat and I weren't sure how long we would be able to keep him in our home. Now the tantrums and aggressive outbursts are under control and only happen a few times a month. Jen treated Cole like he was her own. She was often moved to tears during our therapy sessions and told me she often wakes up during the night, thinking of new ways to challenge and help Cole. I'm not sure why or how we were so blessed to have her in our lives, but we will never forget or under-appreicate everything she has done for our family and son.
Last night we got to visit the MAC School for the first time. It exceeded my expectations more than I could have hoped for. The facility is beautiful. It's nestled among trees, plants and tons of flowers. The play area is all fenced in and there are three different play sets. Inside the school is beautiful. It's immaculate and painted in all kinds of vivid colors. There is a cafeteria, a gym, music room, library, OT/Speech rooms, Computer rooms and a WII ROOM! Cole impressed everything with his razor scooter skills at open house last night. He also remembered several of the kids from when he was at MAC Minnetonka. He went right up to them and started conversations. At one point, he held hands with Marc and led him out to the playground. This is where he needs to be.
In Cole's 5th grade classroom, there are 7 children, including his best friend, Marc. There are two "teachers" in the room. One is a special ed teacher and the other is a lead ABA Therapist. Cole will spend the first half of his day with the special ed teacher, focusing on academics. While he's there, supporting ABA therapists will be by his side (in place of a para). After lunch and recess, Cole will spend the afternoon doing one-on-one ABA therapy (like he's been doing for the past 3 yrs). Cole will only have 2 other kids with him during the academic and ABA time. That is a pretty amazing teacher to student ratio! They have two huge classrooms to use and areas for individual instruction if it's necessary. The classrooms have huge windows, so there is a ton of natural light.
Cole will start school on Tuesday. We are SO proud of him. He has worked incredibly hard for the past 7 years to get to this point. I'm thrilled for Cole. He will be in an environment where he will be completely accepted for who he is, he will receive individualized educational instruction and make friends who aren't going to care if Cole is more interested in knowing what kind of tractor they have vs what sports they play.
I'LL BE BACK
Thanks for reading this monster of an update. I promise I'll be back more often.
Enjoy what's left of summer!
